I was having a talk with a friend of mine recently and the discussion came around to different personalities in terms of how they view events. Basically, there are 2 types of persons:
- Forward-looking: This individual is always about the next task that has to be done. Their mentality is oriented towards action. Their behavior is more influenced by opportunities in the future than events in the past.
- Backward-looking: This person’s actions are determined by past experience and events. Their behavior is influenced by risk management. They are more conservative in predictions for the future and hence less passionate.
Every person has different elements of each behavior. People take risks in some cases. They also resist change for others. However, there is usually one pre-dominant tendency in a person which boils down to answering the question, “Am I willing to try?”
The forward-looking person is a pleasure to work with because they don’t get bogged down in a task. If something doesn’t work, they try some other approach. If someone doesn’t co-operate, they find another person. If they face failure, they dust it off and find something else to do.
Such persons always find something to keep them happy. They don’t sit around unhappy or worried. For them, life is full of promise, regardless of how old they are. They are true to the concept of “making lemonade when life gives them lemons”.
Should one adopt such an attitude? I think yes, because for one, you cannot change the past – not one decision, not one second. The past is also not a good indicator of the future, especially in our fast changing times. Every day brings new opportunities for happiness. Looking forward is a great way to enjoy life to the fullest.
Risk management has its place. One should benefit from experience and not repeat the mistakes of the past. There is also a need for conservative behavior in certain financial, legal and corporate situations. However, being always afraid and regretting brings no reward – only mental suffering and loss of valuable time.
Be happy. Dream of what you can do in the future. And run to embrace it.